Infertility: When It's All in Your Mind

Jan 22, 2009
There are cases when both of you do not have any obvious medical reasons why you should not conceive. For a couple such situation can be especially frustrating since you just do not know where to begin and what to do to change it. Few couples would juts admit they are unlucky to have a baby, and most of them do not realize that they have to deal with psychological reasons for their infertility.

Infertility is not always a medical problem. Getting pregnant can be quite difficult under certain circumstances, including relationship tensions, problems at work, lack of sleep and other. Sometimes we just forget that our body is in close connection with mind and mental health may put a burden on our physical condition.

Daily stresses either physical or emotional play a major role in man's and woman's life. This refers to reproductive system that is controlled by brain. It is known that long-term stress can lead to dysfunctions of menstrual cycle for women and increases the risk of erectile dysfunction and sperm damage for men. That's why the first step to increase your chances to conceive is to reduce stress.

Dealing with infertility can be stressful in itself. You may feel devastated, have negative outlook after all the attempts to conceive and as a result the situation gets even worse. Many couples would admit that infertility treatment plays on their nerves and makes their relationships tenser.

If you underwent all the necessary tests and simply deal with unexplained infertility, this might be a high time to find out psychological reasons for it. Here are some recommendations:

Express yourself

Communication is a key when you deal with psychological reasons for infertility. You may need to talk openly to your partner about your feelings. If you go on suffering in silence this may seriously undermine your chances to conceive and impact your health in a negative way. Ask your partner about his feelings and emotions and try to understand the reasons. If you find it difficult to deal with your emotions alone, seek professional help, like counseling or support groups.

Take a break

Trying too hard to conceive is not the best way out. Many couples found that focusing on pleasure rather than conception was more effective in getting pregnant. First of all you need to talk to your partner openly and explain that both of you need to have sex for pure enjoyment. Do not think about your chances of getting pregnant. Set a period of time (like three or four months) when you want to draw your attention from fertility issues. Have sex when you feel the urge and not when it is the most fertile period in your cycle. Spontaneity adds to sexual desire and helps you to relax.

Learn relaxation techniques

One of the most important things to do is to reduce stress to a minimum. There are many ways to help you maintain your emotional well-being. You can choose what suits you the best. Physical activity, like yoga, moderate exercising, and swimming is quite effective and great way to reduce the tension. You may also try acupuncture as a way to relax your body and mind. The recent studies showed that women who underwent acupuncture treatment had greater chances to conceive than those who did not have acupuncture. Others may find massage therapy as an effective technique reducing their stress. Opt for technique that is comfortable for you and soon you may find that the most difficult part is done.